Living With an Alcoholic Partner During Lockdown My ex-husband is an alcoholic. Around lockdown, things got worse. He would disappear […]
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Your voice matters
Welcome to The Nest – our birds flyin’ journal board. Your tweets are a powerful force for change, and by “tweet,” we don’t mean on Musk’s platform X. The Nest is a safe space for us to own our experiences, share patterns of toxic behaviour, offer support and find solidarity. Anonymity is paramount, ensuring you can express yourself freely and securely.
Join the flock and submit a story
Contributing your story helps you to process grief, feel heard and support others navigating the fog of cheating, betrayal and loss. Letting go sounds simple. But as human beings, it is one of the hardest things we will ever do. It takes immense courage.
Letting go isn’t a single release. It happens in phases. You don’t just let go of the person. You let go of the version of yourself who loved them: the future you imagined and the lifestyle you were used to living. You lose the life you built around them – friends, family members and other people you may not have expected. If the pain is deep, you will not release them just once. You will be asked to let go again and again. Not because you are failing, but because healing moves in cycles. Your grief is real, it is layered, and it is complicated.
How to submit
Submitting your story helps you own it, begin to let go, and empower others to identify patterns in destructive behaviour. In many cases abuse will escalate post separation. That shift is the heart of swift ownership and self-image – before time and smear campaigns can rewrite the narrative.
We rely on honesty; this is not a hate site or partner-trolling space. To fully benefit, we recommend journalling your story first. We explain the power of the quill below.
- Register a unique username or bird name to remain anonymous
- Write your story in a post-it style format – raw and real. Please do not 'birden' yourself with perfection, as we have Puffin editors to check it before it is posted. We will take care not to change the essence of your story.
- Check T&Cs before submitting.
Be swift, set your spirit free: Why we journal
When a relationship ends, your world, story and nervous system can feel stuck in a loop. Staying stuck costs you your peace, your time and your future. Writing by hand creates permanence, clarity and calm. When your nervous system settles, the story shifts from “this happened to me” to “this is part of my life, I’m still here and I can get through this.”
Betrayal
Secrets in the sand
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The Three D’s
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